Enrollment open through May 1 at 11:59 pm PT!
Stop avoiding sex and start wanting it again
For the Catholic wife who loves her husband but dreads being touched
If you're honest, sex isn't great
It’s definitely not something you look forward to, what's an orgasm anyway?
Your libido disappeared 2 kids ago and it doesn’t seem like she’s coming back.
You avoid your husband’s touch because you don’t want it to lead somewhere.
You tense up during kissing, hoping it ends before it escalates.
But you also know it shouldn't feel this way
Marriage wasn’t meant to include this much avoidance.
Intimacy wasn’t meant to feel like something to get through.
Pleasure wasn’t meant for everyone else except you.
The good news? This is fixable.
What Catholic women tell me...
“I feel like I don't get anything out of sex”
“I want to want sex, I just don't”
“I feel obligated to use those 'safe' days”
“I feel guilty that my husband wants sex more than I do.”
“I'm too exhausted for sex”
“It takes me too long to get aroused”
“I want orgasm, but I just don't know how. It's never worked before.”
“Sex feels like just another chore I have to cross off.”
If these sound familiar, you're in exactly the right place
The real problem isn't low libido
It's that no one ever taught you how female desire actually works
This is not a “spice things up” program
You've tried praying more, reading more books, pushing through pain, trying something new in the bedroom, ignoring the problems and hoping for the best...
This program isn't those things (except maybe adding more prayer because we all need that!)
Want it and Enjoy it is a 100% Catholic practical program to give you real changes quickly.
It's not more vague theology and encouragment
When you ask a question, we'll dig deep into your specific situation and you'll come out with practical next steps to implement in your marriage.
This program is the Catholic answer women have been missing
Let me give you an example from the last cohort:
Shaley raised her hand in coaching and shared that she really enjoyed the waterfall position that she and her husband used, but she would feel pain right at the point of her husband's orgasm.
We dove right into tons of questions about the nature of the pain, how it felt, where it came from, and what other symptoms she had. From there we looked at similar positions she could try as well as 5 options for adjusting with pillows, leg position, and bed/table height.
Shaley knew exactly what to try. No vagueness. Real scientific sexology filtered through a Catholic lens.
This is
A group coaching program for Catholic wives who want sex to feel good, meaningful, and joyful.
After 8 weeks you're going to understand:
Desire
Why you don’t want sex and how to rebuild authentic, sustainable desire
Arousal
How to help your body actually feel ready instead of rushing or forcing
Pleasure
How female pleasure works, why it matters, and how to actually experience it
Mindset & Nervous System
How anxiety, pressure, shame, and distraction shut desire down and how to reverse that
Communication
How to talk about sex clearly, confidently, and lovingly without awkwardness or fear (or fights!)
Catholic Moral Clarity
What the Church actually teaches and how to live it with peace instead of scrupulosity
Is it really ok to take a course on sexual pleasure?
The Church Celebrates Marital Intimacy - The Catholic Church teaches that sex within marriage is good, holy, and beautiful. The Catechism of the Catholic Church (CCC 2362) states:
“The acts in marriage by which the intimate and chaste union of the spouses takes place are noble and honorable; the truly human performance of these acts fosters the self-giving they signify, enriching the spouses in joy and gratitude.”This means that enjoying sex, fully and freely, is part of God’s design for marriage. Cultivating desire is about embracing the fullness of the gift God has given you in marriage.
God Created Women’s Desire to Be Different
Many Catholic women feel broken because they don’t experience spontaneous desire like their husbands do. But women often experience responsive desire, which means they need time, connection, and intentional effort to cultivate sexual readiness.
Learning how to desire and enjoy sex is not forcing something unnatural. It’s actually working with how God created you.Taking Active Steps to Nurture Intimacy is Not Sinful
Some women worry that intentionally getting themselves in the mood is inappropriate, but there is a clear difference between preparing yourself for intimacy with your husband and engaging in self-focused lust.
It is not sinful to:
Take intentional steps to help your body and mind be more open to sexShift your mindset so that sex feels like a joy instead of an obligation
Engage in licit ways of awakening desire (such as sensory exercises, affectionate thoughts about your husband, or prayer)
It would be sinful to:
Engage in self-stimulation that leads away from the marital embrace
Rely on media or fantasy that distorts God’s design for intimacy
Treat sex as something purely for personal pleasure, rather than a shared gift in marriage
So yes, it is absolutely OK to want to want sex more. And it’s OK to seek out tools that will help you along the way.
What others have said:
Kristen and her husband went from feeling so lost to feeling confident!
Elizabeth was super cautious going in but was so relived to learn the course was super Catholic and everything in line with Church teaching!
Brianna went from being fine never having sex again to actually wanting sex!
Mindy went from frustrated with orgasm to actually understanding them and enjoying them!
Patricia loved learning everything and applying it with her husband (and wished she had it sooner!)
Chelsea still learned things after 20 years of marriage!
Monica went from thinking sex is just for men to realizing her pleasure mattered and was a good thing to pursue!
If you're unsatisfied with your sex life in any way and ready to do the work, please join this program. It has been so good for my marriage. My husband has noticed the changes too. I went from never wanting sex again to planning for it, on purpose, twice in one day! The support and understanding you receive in this program is truly life changing.
I loved the support and sense of community. I loved bringing faith into it as well - it has been a bit weird for me in the past to have God and sex in the same conversation so it was just helpful I think to have other Catholic women who also struggle with sex and talk about it.
Before the course, I felt so inadequate. I desired sex, but not as much as I thought I should. I felt like I was the one who was holding us back from having great sex. I thought the course would have good information that might help other women, but it wouldn't make anything better for me. I really thought I was too broken to be fixed. Now, instead of inadequate and discouraged, I feel so hopeful.
Anonymous
2026 Want it and Enjoy it participant
Jessica A
2026 Want it and Enjoy it participant
Anonymous
2026 Want it and Enjoy it participant
If you're unsatisfied with your sex life in any way and ready to do the work, please join this program. It has been so good for my marriage. My husband has noticed the changes too. I went from never wanting sex again to planning for it, on purpose, twice in one day! The support and understanding you receive in this program is truly life changing.
Anonymous
2026 Want it and Enjoy it participant
I loved the support and sense of community. I loved bringing faith into it as well - it has been a bit weird for me in the past to have God and sex in the same conversation so it was just helpful I think to have other Catholic women who also struggle with sex and talk about it.
Jessica A
2026 Want it and Enjoy it participant
Before the course, I felt so inadequate. I desired sex, but not as much as I thought I should. I felt like I was the one who was holding us back from having great sex. I thought the course would have good information that might help other women, but it wouldn't make anything better for me. I really thought I was too broken to be fixed. Now, instead of inadequate and discouraged, I feel so hopeful.
Anonymous
2026 Want it and Enjoy it participant
I appreciated knowing that I wasn't alone in my struggles. That there are many other women out there who are struggling with very similar, if not the exact same things, and that we can support one another in our journey toward fullness in the catholic church through our vocation in the sacrament of marriage! It was also empowering to feel seen in my specific struggles, and to receive the support necessary to help make the changes needed in my marriage.
There is something for everyone to learn
My husband was so enthusiastic I join and check it out and I didnt know if one more thing on my plate in this season was a good idea. I am so thankful he encouraged me. We have seen growth in our conversations, sex life and holiness over the course of the program and feel like we have barely scratched the surface when it came to videos and extras offered.
Monica
2026 Want it and Enjoy it participant
Emma
2026 Want it and Enjoy it participant
Anonymous
2026 Want it and Enjoy it participant
I appreciated knowing that I wasn't alone in my struggles. That there are many other women out there who are struggling with very similar, if not the exact same things, and that we can support one another in our journey toward fullness in the catholic church through our vocation in the sacrament of marriage! It was also empowering to feel seen in my specific struggles, and to receive the support necessary to help make the changes needed in my marriage.
Monica
2026 Want it and Enjoy it participant
There is something for everyone to learn
Emma
2026 Want it and Enjoy it participant
My husband was so enthusiastic I join and check it out and I didnt know if one more thing on my plate in this season was a good idea. I am so thankful he encouraged me. We have seen growth in our conversations, sex life and holiness over the course of the program and feel like we have barely scratched the surface when it came to videos and extras offered.
Anonymous
2026 Want it and Enjoy it participant
Imagine this...
It's Tuesday night and your husband moves toward you for a kiss...
You don’t tense when your husband touches you.
You don’t mentally brace yourself for the possibility of sex tonight.
You feel present in your body, and you're open to whatever comes next.
You understand what turns you on and how to get there, so you're not worried about your husband intiating.
In fact, you respond to his kiss with a deeper kiss and a nod to the bedroom.
You have sex not because you should, but because you want to.
You feel closer to your husband, not resentful or pressured.
And for the first time, you think:
“Oh. This is what they meant when they said sex is amazing.”
What’s Included?
Complete Course Library (5 Core Modules)
A step-by-step program to help you want sex more, enjoy it more, and rebuild your entire relationship with sex so it becomes something you look forward to instead of avoid, dread, or just get through.
Inside the 5 modules, you’ll get teaching on:
Foundations – uncover what’s really driving low desire and where to focus first
Mindset – break shame, pressure, guilt, resentment, and unhelpful thought patterns
Practical Sex Ed – clear, tasteful education most women were never taught about arousal, desire, and how the female body works
Communication – learn how to talk with your husband about sex without tension, shutdown, or fighting
Pleasure – understand what helps you enjoy sex more, feel more present, and stop feeling disconnected
8 Weeks of Live Group Coaching
Real support while you implement what you’re learning so you don’t have to figure this out alone.
1-hour weekly live coaching call with direct coaching and guidance. Ask for coaching or learn from others as they receive coaching.
Q&A support so you can get answers to your real questions
Anonymous question submission if you’d rather stay private
Call recordings if you can’t attend live
Coaching on obstacles like low desire, mental blocks, resentment, body image, difficulty enjoying sex, and more
Guided Workbook
A practical workbook to help you apply everything you learn.
Identify your biggest desire blockers
Reflect on patterns in your marriage and intimacy
Create an action plan that fits your season of life
Track progress over the 8 weeks
Turn information into real change
Bonus Resources
Catholic Sex Positions Guide
Tasteful ideas for variety, comfort, connection, and intimacy within Catholic teaching.
Getting in the Mood Guide
Practical help for women who struggle to mentally shift into desire, especially when tired, touched out, or overwhelmed.
Pain-Free Sex Course for Catholic Women
Support for women dealing with pain, tension, fear, or discomfort during sex so intimacy can become peaceful and enjoyable again.
Premium access details:
Weekly Private Check-In Form
Stay consistent and supported each week with a simple check-in designed to help you keep momentum, share wins, ask questions, and get unstuck quickly.Personalized Coaching Response Video
Receive a custom video from me each week with answers to your questions, individual coaching on your specific situation, and clear guidance on your next best steps.Priority Question Submission for Weekly Coaching Calls
Your questions move to the front of the line. If you submit a question, it will be covered during the live coaching call so you never have to wonder if your biggest challenge will go unanswered.End-of-Program Personalized Roadmap
Finish the program with a clear plan for what to focus on next, how to keep your progress going, and the specific steps that will help you continue transforming your sex life.
This is for you if...
✔ You're a married Catholic women who loves her husband
✔ You don't enjoy sex, but you want to
✔ You want to want sex more without feeling guilty about it
✔ You want pleasure without compromising your faith
✔ You are tired of pretending sex doesn’t matter
This is not for you if...
✖ You are looking for explicit sexual content or graphic instruction
(This is thoughtful, respectful, and faith-aligned.)
✖ You want quick tips or techniques without understanding what is actually blocking desire
(This work goes deeper than surface-level fixes.)
✖ You are not open to learning within the framework of Catholic teaching on marriage and sex
✖ You are hoping someone will give you a script to follow without doing any personal reflection or practice
✖ You are satisfied with sex feeling “fine” or something to get through, and are not interested in changing that
Transform your sex life in a way that works for you.
Core Program Access
$529
Everything you need to rebuild desire, enjoy sex, and create a stronger Catholic marriage.
8 weekly live coaching calls for real-time help, momentum, and support (recordings available!)
Comprehensive, easy-to-follow course library you can move through at your own pace
Personalized Foundations Fast Track know exactly where to start and focus only on what will move the needle for you
Lifetime access revisit tools whenever life, seasons, or desire shifts
100% faithful Catholic guidance that blends Church teaching with practical tools that actually help real women
Bonuses Included:
Pain-Free Sex Course for Catholic Women
Getting in the Mood Guide
Catholic Sex Positions Guide
Premium Access
$897
Your fastest path to results with personalized support, accountability, and private coaching.
Everything included in Basic, plus premium-only upgrades designed to help you follow through and succeed faster.
And:
8 weeks of private implementation coaching so you never stay stuck or lose momentum
Priority access to submit questions for weekly coaching calls
Private, personalized support for sensitive questions, plus feedback on your progress, obstacles, and wins
Extra accountability + faster results
End-of-program personalized next steps roadmap so you know exactly how to keep growing after the program ends
Enrollment open through May 1 at 11:59 pm PT
Hi I'm Ellen!
Sex was a huge hurdle my husband and I had to overcome early in our marriage, and we had no where to turn with the questions we had.
Birth control, vaginismus, and an inability to communicate about sex made the first few months of our marriage truly horrible.
We tried to talk about it but that created resentment and fighting.
We tried researching things on our own, but it wasn't clear what was in line with church teaching and what wasn't.
Then we tried to just ignore it and hope it got better.
It didn't.
It took years of deep research, hundreds of books, becoming certified NFP instructors, 40+ hours of masters level courses, and earning a certificate in the fundamentals of sex therapy before things really started to click and our sex life became amazing.
Now I create authentically Catholic resources for women on sex and intimacy rooted in Theology of the Body. I combine up to date sexology with church teaching to provide you with practical sex support that is 100% in line with the Catholic Church.
I want you to have the same transformation I did without the years of pain and full on masters level research.
I want you to have an amazing marriage and an awesome sex life!
Frequently Asked Questions
Is this program faithful to Catholic Church teaching?
Yes. This program is fully grounded in Catholic teaching on marriage and sexuality, including the goodness of the marital act, the unitive and procreative meaning of sex, and the dignity of the female body. Nothing in this program contradicts Church teaching. In fact, many women find this work helps them finally understand why the Church teaches what it does. The main sources used for course content are the Catechism of the Catholic Church, The Theology of the Body, Love and Responsibility, Guadium Et Spes, and Humanae Vitae.
Will this include explicit sexual content?
No. The content is respectful, modest, and appropriate for Catholic women. We talk about desire, arousal, and pleasure clearly and directly, but never graphically. The focus is understanding your body and your experience, not providing explicit instruction.
What if I have very low desire or feel completely shut down?
You are not disqualified. Many women join feeling closed off, avoidant, or convinced that sex just is not for them. This program is designed specifically for Catholic women who do not currently enjoy sex and want that to change.
What if I have sexual shame or a complicated past?
You are welcome here. We move gently and at your pace. This program does not force disclosure or sharing personal details. If you have significant past trauma, this program can be supportive, but it does not replace individualized trauma therapy.
Does my husband need to participate?
No. This program is designed for women. Some exercises may involve communication or shared experiences with your husband, but you do not need his participation to begin this work. We always recommend that you talk with your husband about joining this program and involve him as much as he is willing and interested in it. His involvement can speed up progress and improve outcomes, but his involvement is not required to see major improvements in your sex life.
What if my husband doesn't know I'm taking this?
It is highly encouraged to share this journey with your husband. Your sex life is a shared experience and you will make the necessary changes faster if your husband is aware of what you are working on.
However, this course doesn't require your husband to participate. There is so much that can change and improve in your sex life by just you working on your mindset and understanding of the concepts in this course. It is ok if he doesn't know you are taking this, but I can guarantee you that he will notice the changes pretty quickly.
What if my husband is frustrated or has a higher desire than I do?
This is very common. As you learn how desire actually works and how to feel safer and more receptive in your body, many women find that this dynamic begins to soften naturally. We also address how to communicate about sex and desire with clarity and charity.
How much time does this take each week?
Plan for about 1 to 2 hours per week. This includes watching lessons, attending or replaying the group call, and practicing the exercises. You will see the biggest changes and improvements if you commit to 15-20 minutes of daily practice and study.
What if I am worried this will make me more scrupulous?
This program aims to reduce anxiety and scrupulosity, not increase it. We provide clear moral frameworks and emphasize peace, intention, and growth rather than fear or perfection.
I have tried praying, trying harder, and waiting. How is this different?
Prayer is essential, but prayer does not replace understanding how your body and nervous system work. This program bridges theology with practical tools so prayer and effort can actually bear fruit.
What if I am nervous to talk about sex in a group setting?
You are never required to share. Many women choose to listen quietly and still experience profound shifts. The group environment exists to normalize your experience, not to pressure you. You can join the group coaching sessions with an anonymous name or you can choose to only watch the replay if you feel more comfortable that way. However, many women have found that the group setting helps tremendously in realizing that others have similar experiences and that they are not alone in this journey.
Will I have access to the content after the program ends?
Yes. You receive lifetime access to the course materials so you can revisit them whenever you need.
I'm not married yet, can I join this program?
This program is designed for married Catholic women. The topics covered are very intimate and may not be appropriate prior to marriage. If you are engaged and would like to join, send me an email at [email protected] and let's see if it's a good fit for you.
Is there a refund policy?
I want you to have the best experience possible. If you're not satisfied with the course, we'll refund your payment.
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